My Renaissance lit professor brought up a good point about “man caves” last semester and the whole concept of men having a special designated space to escape. And it’s really interesting, cause he called it out as what it is. It’s an appropriation of victimhood by men made to believe that marriage and family are these things weighing down on their happiness. And it’s so true. Cause like… Do yall hear the way some men talk about marriage or even domestic situations with women in general. Married men like to put off that they are somehow miserable with wives and families when actual studies show that married men in society fare better than married women. Depression rates are higher in married women than in married men. And married men make more money & get more promotions than single men. On the flip side married women & women who have children are likely to not get promoted or make as much money as their single and/or childless counter parts. And I guess the reason for that is because corporate America knows that family dynamics have not changed on the grand scale and that women still mostly, even with a partner, do most of the child rearing and domestic duties.

So, again, my question for the man cavers: What exactly are you hiding from?