Aphobia - I consider aphobia/acephobia to be a stolen term, because the -phobia suffix is used under the pretence that the ace community experiences systematic oppression which they do not. I would say that this suffix being appropriated and misused is grounds for it being theft.
Aphobic - Same as above.
Allosexual - The prefix of allosexual was taken from the autistic community. The creator of this term has since regretted coining it.
Gatekeeping - This term, in relation to the LGBT community, was coined by trans women to discuss the refusal of proper medical treatment for them by doctors.
Corrective Rape - This term was coined by lesbians in South Africa to talk about the sanctioned rape of wlw. (more info) The UN has since suggested that it be called Homophobic Rape, as that is what it is. (Just a side note, many ace discoursers have simply asked that the ace community come up with their own term for their sexual assault – not that it doesn’t happen.)
ALA - This acronym for “Ace loving ace” is directly stolen from the AAVE term, wlw.
Artemisian - This is a term that was stolen from sapphic. It’s problematic especially due to the fact that Artemis is a goddess that many people still worship today.
“Coming Out” / “In the closet” - Again, aces are not systematically put into danger for being ace. Nothing is forcing them into a closet, and they won’t lose/be at risk to lose rights by being open about their sexuality.
Queer - This is a slur directed solely at SGA/trans individuals. Aces cannot and should not be reclaiming on the grounds of being ace.
Compulsory Sexuality - This term is appropriated from compulsory heterosexuality, a lesbian term coined by Adrienne Rich.
The ActuallyAsexual tag - The series of “Actually_____” tags were started by disabled and/or mentally ill individuals to share and discuss their experiences.
The “A” - I just had to include the theft that started it all. The A stands for allies (as in, closeted individuals in need of a cover.)
This doesn’t even include the various antisemitic images/icons that ace tumblr has been seen promoting and using. Please feel free to continue adding!! I’m positive there’s more terminology that I’ve missed here.
Updated List
These are more terms/images that have been brought to my attention. Thank you to everyone who mentioned them! Not all of these are so-called major infractions; many on this updated list and also the original list might seem silly to even mention. The point is that the ace community needs to learn to create its own spaces and terms without taking things from other communities.
Aplatonic - “Was a word coined by a survivor of violence for survivors and nd people to describe our difficultly forming friendships/relationships with others due to trauma”
“Ace Trace” - A knock off of the term “gaydar.”
dateanacewho - dateagirlwho and dateaboywho are blogs created specifically for LGB individuals to normalize their feelings and the idea of dating someone of the same/similar gender.
Conversion Therapy - A term taken from a violent method of ‘making gays straight’. A post arguing that asexuals face risk of conversion therapy even comments on it being different. (Just like corrective rape, this is not arguing that it doesn’t happen; just create your own term.)
The ‘Ace Triangle’ - Antisemitic. This symbol was taken from the pink triangle gay men were forced to wear in concentration camps.
**More on “Allosexual” - This is variant of the French-Canadian term ‘allosexuel’ which was meant to act as a reclamation of the word queer. Also important to note that the person who coined allosexual for ace discourse is autistic themselves.
**More on “Artemisian” - Artemis is heavily coded as a lesbian and many of her followers today are wlw. To disregard her mythos is highly inappropriate and hurtful toward the women who worship her.